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What Lights You Up?: Expressing Your Passion in the World

November 1, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

“To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun?” – Katherine Graham – American Publisher

Being in the Zone

When was the last time that you were so engaged in what you were doing that you completely lost track of time? What is it that you were involved with? Were you organizing, planning, decorating, running a meeting, painting, gardening, helping others, or teaching? Whatever you were engaged in, you were experiencing being “in the zone”. This is a state of being fully focused, motivated, and passionate – a state where you are doing what you are uniquely gifted to do.

One of my teachers, Laura Berman Fortgang, has said, “your satisfaction will not stem from what you do but from who you get to be while you do that thing.” We often get caught up in what we are “supposed” to be doing. This can stem from a wide variety of influences including parents, friends, teachers, and societal pressures to name a few. Forget titles and look at the essence of who you get to be in any occupation or pursuit you consider. It can open up doors you never imagined.

Find what it is that uniquely lights you up. Your passion can be something that you’ve known all your life or you may evolve into it as you notice what you most love. To begin your own exploration, consider the following questions.

Ask Yourself

What gets me excited about life?
What brings meaning to my life?
If I could do exactly what I’d like to do, what would it be?
What are my natural gifts and talents?
What did I most like to do as a young child?
What are my criteria for happiness?
What are my values?

Your Next Steps

Once you have jotted down the answers to these questions, it can be helpful to share them with a close friend, a mentor, or a coach to flesh them out and look at possibilities. It’s never too early or too late to decide on the best path for you. No matter where you are on your life’s journey – early career, mid-life, or planning your next chapter – dreams can be realized. Take these first steps to open the door to what could be next for you.

About the Author: Sherry Dutra is a Talent Development, Career and Retirement Coach and Facilitator who works with corporate leaders in small to mid-size businesses, across the span of their careers. She helps them to accelerate business outcomes and team performance, navigate their own career path, and transition to retirement with ease using proven methodologies and strategies that get results. If you would like to uncover and address hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success, leverage your strengths, and accelerate your progress toward the results you desire, contact Sherry for a complimentary consultation.

Shifting Your Relationship with Stress

October 11, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

Change is inevitable – after all, nothing really stays the same. But in today’s challenging times, it seems like we’re on “uncertainty” overload, never knowing what will happen from one moment to the next.

With uncertainty comes stress and confusion, and while most of us would be quick to say that we want less stress and more certainty in our lives, what we really want is less of a stress reaction to what life throws our way.

We can’t choose what happens to us – but we can choose our responses to the situations we encounter. Let’s take a look at five different responses that people have to stressful situations. As you read, you may want to think of a recent stressful event or news that you may have received, and see what your reaction to that event can teach you about how you habitually respond. You may have one type of response at work, and another at home, or you may react differently depending on who else is involved.

The first and all too common response to stressful events is to suffer and be a victim to it. People who respond this way don’t take action. Things happen TO them – and though they may complain and be generally miserable about it, they don’t take any steps to do anything. They allow life to control them, instead of the other way around. This way of responding is certainly not recommended, and eventually, it will take its toll on one’s physical and mental health.

The second type of response is to accept the situation. Someone with this response may say “so what,” or perhaps get some perspective on the situation by asking if it will matter in a year – or a week – or even in a day.

The third way to respond is to actually take steps to change the situation – taking action to bring it to resolution (or at least move toward resolution). This is a very powerful response, and one that many effective leaders employ.

The fourth way to respond is to avoid the situation. People responding this way make a decision not to get involved in a situation that they don’t see as concerning them, or upon which they can’t make an impact.

The fifth and final way that people generally respond to stress is to alter the experience of the situation. When we look at a situation differently, the experience itself changes. Changing perceptions is probably the most challenging of the responses, because we tend to be stuck in our own interpretations and assumptions about what’s happening, but it is also perhaps the most powerful of all.

It’s your world, and you can create it as you wish. Remember, what one person sees as stressful, another person barely notices, or sees as exciting and full of opportunity. How are you going to choose today?

Your Network: A Future Focused View

August 23, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

When you consider your network, you likely look at those people you already know and consider ways in which to nurture and grow these relationships. Frankly, doing so is an important part of building and maintaining a vital network. However, where you can go wrong is in limiting your approach to only those people you already know and neglecting to consider important connections, you may need to develop, that align with your career vision.

To take a more powerful view of your network, look out to where you’d like to be in your career in the next three to five years and work backwards from there.

Here are a few practical steps to guide you:

Give yourself time to consider your ideal career, three to five years from now.
If you achieve your vision, who will be the people you know and who know you? Be bold here. Consider the leaders in your field as well as in your community.
Now, working backwards, write the story of how you developed a relationship with these people. What projects did you work on? Which professional associations were you a part of? Who were the people that made pivotal introductions for you? What did you do to ramp up your professional development? What leadership roles did you take on?
In what ways do you want to show up differently to attract the people and opportunities that will make your story a reality?
What is the most impactful step you could take now to start expanding your network in a powerful way that aligns with your desired future?

Consider this a twist on the traditional view of networking. Rather than starting from where you are, step into the future, and work your way backwards.

This approach can feel a bit intimidating as it may call upon you to step up your game and reinvent how you show up.

Yet, if you want to reach your career aspirations, then you must be the type of professional that you’d like to attract into your network of relationships. The steps outlined above encourage you to assess how you show up now as a leader and how you need to show up to attract the professional network that will support you in reaching your dreams. And, in the process, you will have the opportunity to help others do the same.

Adapted with permission by Center for Executive Coaching.

Choosing Your Path to Career Fulfillment

August 2, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

Award winning American poet, Mary Oliver, once wrote, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” I love this line from her poem, “The Summer Day”, as it invites introspection and calls us to live our lives on purpose. If we apply this to our work lives, this can be a daunting question and one that leaves us overwhelmed with selecting the “right” career. As children, we begin to demonstrate areas of strength as we grow. Well-intentioned parents, teachers, friends and others may encourage us to become a nurse or teacher if we excel at helping others, an engineer or accountant if we have strong math skills, or an artist or musician if we display a creative streak. You can see the pattern and may have experienced it yourself. Yet, this linear path can sometimes lead us astray. Simply because we are good at something doesn’t necessarily mean that it will bring us the career fulfillment we desire. There is something deeper we must explore to be fully engaged in our work.

Employee Engagement Survey Data

The 2020 Gallup Study indicated that, while employee engagement has risen slightly, to 36% in the U.S., we still have 64% of the workforce in a state of disengagement. 51% of those studied are not engaged, which means that they don’t have much of a connection to the work that they are doing and are likely to do the bare minimum in their roles. 13% of those studied are actively disengaged which means that they resent their jobs and have a tendency to complain to those around them and impact the morale of co-workers. Do you find yourself among the 64% who are disengaged? While there are multiple factors that impact employee engagement, there is something that you can do to begin to shift the tide and help you get on track.

A Key Question

A key question to ask that will guide you toward your career fulfillment is “Why?”

What is the “why” behind everything you do – your purpose?

I truly believe that each of us has a purpose in life. Finding that purpose allows us to stay aligned, doing what we love while accomplishing things that are meaningful to us. Your level of happiness will always tell you when you are aligned with your purpose and when you’re not.

To help you get started, here is a resource that will help you to explore your passion and purpose. Click here to read Jack Canfield’s 10 Life Purpose Tips. As a Canfield Certified Trainer in the Success Principles, I have seen the positive impact on clients when they are able to tap into their purpose and express it in the world, both through their work and in their lives in general.

Next Steps

If you are feeling less than fulfilled by your work, I invite you to follow the 10 tips and take responsibility for creating a career that you love. You might find creative ways to express your purpose in your current role or you may find that your purpose exploration starts you down an entirely new path. Whatever your path forward, remember that it’s up to you to take the first step. No one cares more about your career than you. As Mary Oliver wrote, “You must not ever stop being whimsical. And you must not, ever, give anyone else the responsibility for your life.”

Why the Best Leaders Develop Mindfulness

June 29, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

What have Google, Samsung, Aetna, SAP, and P&G all got in common? All of these world-class organizations recognize that one of the fastest growing segments of our working population is burnt out leaders. They responded to this by implementing mindfulness leadership programs to help their leaders not only excel in work, but in their personal lives as well.

Decades of solid research show a direct connection between mindfulness and emotional intelligence in leaders and the bottom-line results they achieve. Being good at ‘what you do’ is no longer enough…you must also be resilient enough to effectively manage your emotions, reactions, and decisions in challenging business situations – and to help the people you manage, or work with, to do the same.

Great leaders are always searching for ways to take their leadership practices to the next level. Mindfulness has been the source of much focus over the last number of years and organizations worldwide are now realizing that sometimes there is more to a successful leader than meets the eye.

Developing emotional intelligence and mindfulness can truly transform the impact and ability of a leader. Following the Genos Leadership Model:

When you develop self-awareness, you become an Aware Leader. Aware leaders understand the impact that their behaviors have on others. They are consistent in what they say and do, and they demonstrate awareness of their mood and emotions.
Developing awareness of others allows you to become a more Empathetic Leader. Empathetic leaders make team members feel appreciated and adjust their style so that it fits well with others. They acknowledge the views of others and balance achieving results with others’ needs.
Working on authenticity creates more Genuine Leaders. Genuine leaders honor commitments and promises, they are open and honest about mistakes, and they facilitate robust and open debate.
Leaders high in emotional reasoning make Expansive decisions as a leader. Expansive leaders consult others in decision making, they make ethical decisions taking the bigger picture into account.
Leaders that work to develop self-management are Resilient Leaders. Resilient Leaders manage their emotions well in difficult situations. They strive to improve their own performance, and they learn from their mistakes.
Effective leaders that inspire performance become Empowering Leaders. Empowering leaders provide constructive feedback, maintain a positive work environment, and facilitate team member development and career advancement.

Do you or the leaders in your organization need to develop the above behaviors? They can do so by participating in the Genos Mindful Leader Program facilitated
by Dutra Associates, LLC, a Genos Certified Practitioner.

If you’re interested in hosting a Mindful Leader Program in your organization, please contact Sherry Dutra at Sherry@DutraAssociates.com or call 603.595.1588.

Article in collaboration with Genos International Europe.

Who Am I If I’m Not an Executive? – Preparing for the Transition Called Retirement

June 1, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

In recent years, I’ve been hearing a variety of stories regarding business owners and corporate executives who’ve been ready to sell their business or step down from their leadership role and retire, only to back out or panic at the last minute. The common theme among these stories is the concern they were experiencing about what their days would look like after they made the transition to retirement. Without preparation, it can feel like going from 120 miles per hour to zero in an instant.

Retirement, or what I prefer to call ReIgnitement™, requires planning. And, while many have focused attention on financial planning for retirement, few have considered the non-financial aspects of this life transition. Even in companies with strong succession planning processes, the vast majority do not focus any attention on preparing the executive for the next stage of their life. Transitions of any type can create stress in your life, even if the change is something that you have been looking forward to. When that transition arrives, you can react to the changes that arise such as loss of identity, work relationships, and/or purpose. Or, by taking a planful approach, you can prepare yourself to respond effectively to the transition and ease the way.

This month, I’d like to share a simple tool to help you gauge your readiness for this transition. If you’re roughly 2 – 5 years from retirement, or know someone who is, please use this tool or share it with another to get a quick read on your readiness. If you’re already retired, you can use this tool to pinpoint those areas that might need some attention.

Click on the link for the Retirement Readiness Wheel. The 8 sections you’ll address take into consideration a holistic view of retirement. These sections include the following:

Clarity of Identity, Purpose
Health
Leisure/Travel
Home/Residence, Location
Marriage/Significant Other
Work/Business, Volunteering
Financial Resources
Optimism About Aging

As you review and rate each section, take a moment to determine what that section means to you. Then, to determine your readiness, circle your level of satisfaction with your preparedness for each of the 8 sections on a scale of 1 – 7 (1 = least satisfied, 7 – most satisfied). For example, for Home/Residence, Location – ask yourself “how satisfied am I with my preparedness on where I’m going to live?” Or, for Marriage/Significant Other, consider how prepared your relationship is for the transition. Go with the first response that comes to mind as you review each part of the wheel. That tends to be the one that is most indicative of the way you truly feel.

Once you’ve rated each section, draw a line connecting each of the numbers around the circle. What kind of wheel do you have? How smooth and balanced does it feel? How bumpy might a ride on that wheel be?

If you discover that one or more areas of your ReIgnitement™ could use some tweaking and you’re not sure where to begin, a coach can help. I invite you to explore my profile as well as those of my colleagues on the Retirement Coaches Association website to find a coach who is right for you. We help our clients think about and prepare for retirement like never before. Take the time to plan so that you can hit the ground running when you step into the next phase of your life and career.

3 Keys to Maximizing Business Value

May 4, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

How ready is your company to be sold? If yours is like most, there is probably much to be done. A primary reason for the lack of readiness is that the business is often too dependent on the owner. Consequently, millions of business owners will never maximize the value they have worked so hard to create over years and years of effort.

To prepare your business to be sold for top value, consider these three keys:

Develop the right mindset. Your success largely depends on what goes on between your ears. Many business owners stumble into a trap of keeping their businesses dependent on them. Have you ever said or thought, “I can’t trust anyone to do the job the way that I would”; “It’s got to be perfect”; “This is my baby and I can’t give up control”? Business owners who realize the most value for their businesses have a different way of looking at things. They empower others to take on more responsibility and trust their decision-making. They give up full control. They refrain from micromanaging. They recruit people who are smarter than they are and provide the time and resources to prepare and develop them for senior roles.
Create the infrastructure to recruit, retain and develop leaders who can seamlessly keep the company growing on their own. A company that establishes a strong infrastructure sets the stage for success by making it possible to develop a talent pool of leaders who are capable of successfully running the company without you. Key elements of this infrastructure include:
- clear roles and responsibilities,
- performance metrics for accountability,
- a clear organizational chart,
- a recruiting process that brings in top talent,
- a talent development process,
- a culture that engages and retains talent,
- clear career paths for key roles,
- systems and processes that allow for efficient company operation,
- a performance management system that is fair and stretches people to grow and
- the encouragement of behaviors that create cohesive, team performance.
Implement an ongoing succession planning process that continues to develop and grow new leaders. Once you have the previous pieces in place, the final puzzle piece is an ongoing succession planning process. In some businesses, succession planning is only visited when a need arises, such as the retirement of an executive. Instead, succession planning must be a regular process to identify high potential performers, develop them, and continue to challenge them with the learning, assignments and opportunities that will prepare them to move up.

Companies that have done the hard work to have these three keys in place are in a position to keep growing. Consequently, the business owner is now freed from the weeds of day-to-day operations and can focus on strategy and setting standards of excellence. Also, when leaders within the business are empowered, it offers the owner a better integration between their work and personal life. Finally, the company is made more valuable with these elements in place. This sets the stage for the owner to gain a substantial return on their investment of time and effort over the years and to leave behind a thriving company for their team.

Adapted with permission by Center for Executive Coaching

“Why Can’t We Get Things Done?”: How Individual Perceptions Impact Execution

April 6, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

A common frustration that leaders and managers share is that their organization has difficulty with execution. While they may do well in accomplishing daily activities and tasks, they consistently struggle with effectively executing on time, within budget, and with high quality on the strategic issues that impact the long-term success of the organization. Over time, this can lead to losing market share, decreasing revenues, and even the demise of the organization itself.

There are many factors that impact an organization’s ability to execute. In this blog, we’ll focus on 4 perceptions that noticeably make a difference in a person’s ability to execute effectively.

4 Perceptions that Get in the Way

Relationships: Some individuals refrain from initiating and nurturing professional relationships. They don’t step back and take the time to think strategically about building a strong network within their organization. As a result, when they need to make a high priority request, they may not have the necessary political capital to get what they need.
Influence: Others are unsure of how to sell an idea within the organization. They may not recognize that different approaches are needed for different people or situations and continue to use the same approach every time. Consequently, they struggle to know how to get buy-in for their ideas from key stakeholders such as their boss, peers, team, and cross-functional colleagues.
Time: Ah, the illusive time. We all have the same 24 hours in the day yet we’re not all as effective as some at using them wisely. Some procrastinate. Some say “yes” to everything and need to set boundaries. Some fail to establish and stay focused on their top priorities. Some let email, text messages and chatty colleagues distract them.
Results: Finally, some leaders focus on the wrong results. Rather than keeping an eye toward the long-term success of the organization, they may focus on being right, looking good in front of others, or perhaps as the person with all the answers. While short-term success may be achieved, this view of results often has a negative impact on their career in the long-term, their team and/or their organization.

An added factor to keep in mind is that leaders can often have limiting beliefs that get in the way of their ability to execute and can often link to the perceptions outlined above. For example, a manager who has a belief that everything must be perfect will have issues with time management and difficulty building relationships because of their unrealistic expectations.

Call to Action

Do you find yourself having a difficult time getting things done? If so, do any of the perceptions outlined above sound like you? What step are you willing to take to begin to make noticeable improvements in your execution performance?

Adapted with permission by Center for Executive Coaching.

6 Keys to Managing Your Most Important Work Relationship

March 6, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

While all work relationships are important, there is arguably one that is most important. That is the relationship with your manager and it’s often overlooked. Sometimes this is referred to as “managing up” which is primarily concerned with how effectively you work with and can influence your manager.

What makes this relationship especially important? Your manager ultimately determines the types of projects and assignments that are on your plate. Additionally, your manager has influence on your career path and can help connect you to resources within the organization to help you reach your team’s goals.

Here are six keys to help you strengthen this relationship:

Ensure you are clear regarding your manager’s expectations. The job description for your position may provide you with the formal performance requirements for your role, but your manager will likely have additional expectations. Have a discussion with your manager to ensure that you are aligned on the key measures of success, the priority initiatives to execute, and the principles and values that should be reflected in how you carry out your role.
Get to know your manager. What communication style does your manager prefer? What is important to them, both personally and professionally? In what way do they want to receive information and updates from their team members? What types of things are a natural source of frustration for your manager? If you are aware of the answers, you will be better positioned to help your manager be successful.
Look for the good. As humans, we have a natural tendency to be on the lookout for danger, which can cause us to focus on traits and attributes in managers that we don’t like. Even if your manager can be difficult to work with, focus on the things that your manager does well. Look for the opportunities to learn from your manager and acknowledge their contributions and support.
Consider how you can adapt to your manager’s behavioral style. For example, let’s say that your manager is someone who drives for results and you are more of a process-oriented person. It would be important for you to learn how to present your ideas and other communication in a quick, high-level summary format.
Make your manager look good. Doing something that reflects poorly on your manager is a quick route to damaging your relationship. What might you do to increase the level of trust, respect, and confidence that your manager has in you?
Discover ways to free up time and reduce the hassles your manager deals with. Doing so allows your manager to focus on what’s most important and supports their success. So, take the initiative, be solution oriented, provide possible ideas for resolving issues that you must escalate. Be a leader!

The only behavior you can control is your own. Don’t leave the full responsibility for the relationship in your manager’s hands. Some managers are amazing at creating relationships with their team members. Others, not so much. Regardless of the type of manager you report to, being proactive in building a strong relationship with your manager will not only help their success, but also yours.

For more ideas about how to improve relationships and alignment up, down, and across your organization, contact us at Sherry@DutraAssociates.com.

Adapted with permission by Center for Executive Coaching

The Power of Perceptions in Leadership Success

February 5, 2021 By Sherry Dutra Leave a Comment

No matter the organization, you have likely experienced the caustic leader who delivers exceptional results yet how they go about getting those results leaves much to be desired. Often this leader needs to be in complete control, believes they are smarter than everyone else, and tells their team what to do rather than develop, coach and trust their employees.

Unfortunately, people don’t want to be around this person, don’t think the leader is very smart at all, and become disengaged and demotivated by the caustic environment. Results are achieved through control and fear rather than a collaborative environment. Over time, this behavior can lead to high turnover and may even create potential legal liability for your company.

Sound familiar? Yet, at work, this is only one example of the perceptual limitations that can ultimately get in the way of leadership success. People with perceptual limitations that inhibit long term success, choose a value, such as being perceived as smart, over being truly successful. While they may still be valuable to the organization, they could enhance their value further by reframing these perceptions.

Consider people in your organization and whether anyone comes to mind who displays any of the additional perceptual limitation examples covered below. A question you might ask yourself to identify someone with a particular type of perceptual limitation is:

“Would they rather ______________ or be successful?”

Look good. While getting results is a great way to look good, some will shift blame, take credit, and do whatever is necessary to look good, even at the expense of results.

Be right. Often this shows up as an “I told you so” mindset. You might also notice it when a leader wants to win no matter what – even if that win damages relationships and the team.

Get credit. When managers are more worried about getting the credit for the great idea or for driving a project to completion, they may not get the results they desire. Sharing the credit with others builds collaboration and relationships.

Be liked. New managers often struggle with this perceptual limitation, especially if the people now on their team used to be their co-workers. In fear of losing their friends, they would rather be popular than make the tough decisions and gain the respect of their team.

Have harmony. Conflict avoidance is common. Yet productive conflict breeds better decisions and innovative ideas through open discussion and the exploration of varying views.

Be perfect. Perfectionism can lead to analysis paralysis. Waiting for perfect data, perfect products, and perfect ideas allows others in the marketplace to get the upper hand. It’s okay to go with less than perfect, see what happens, and continue to improve over time.

Avoid being involved. When things go wrong, do you retreat and leave others to handle the issue? Success comes from diving in and being part of the solution.

These are just a few of the perceptual limitations that can sabotage leadership success. Did you recognize others, or even yourself, in any of these? If so, the good news is that these limiting ways of thinking can be re-framed and new behaviors developed to create sustainable results.

Dutra Associates, LLC has a proven methodology that leads to more effective behaviors, collaboration, and impact on the team and the organization as a whole. If you’d like to learn more, I invite you to reach out at Sherry@DutraAssociates.com. Why tolerate ineffective behaviors in your organization when you don’t have to?

Adapted with permission by Center for Executive Coaching